This week I took three assessments to see how I can
communicate and then I had two family members take the same assessment about
me. There was a communication anxiety inventory, a verbal aggressiveness scale,
and a listening styles profile. The
results from the communication anxiety inventory did not surprise me as I
already knew I have really bad anxiety. When my mom filled out the test and had
a similar answer to mine, I still was not surprised. Public speaking has always
been difficult for me. I prefer one on one and I have to warm up to people. I
think it is due to old experiences and the interaction theory process, explains
how people change their perception of someone else as they spend more time together
(O’Hair, 2018).
The results from the listening styles profile surprised me because
I thought I was a better listener. When I took the test, I was action-oriented,
and the results said I like clear and straight to the point communication. These
results made me seem like I do not care which I felt I am the opposite. When my
sister took the test, I was people oriented, and the results said I am empathetic
and concerned with the emotions of others. I guess I have two sides of me, but
at least other people think I am caring because I think I am for the most part.
My aggressiveness scale was similar when I took the test and
my sister did the test. I maintain a good balance between respect and consideration
for others. I think about the definition of self-concept, who we think we are, influences
our communication.
References
O'Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.
(2018). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.
Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.)
(2009). Communication research measures: A sourcebook. New York:
Routledge.
- "Communication
Anxiety Inventory"
- "Verbal
Aggressiveness Scale"
Rubin, R. B., Rubin, A. M., Graham, E. E., Perse, E. M.,
& Seibold, D. R. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures II: A
sourcebook. New York: Routledge.
- "Listening
Styles Profile-16"
Hello Sharita,
ReplyDeleteYet again, your visual explanations of what you are trying to convey allows me to understand visually and verbally what you are communicating. It reminds me of the communication accommodation theory, that explains how language and identity shape communication in various contexts (O'Hair et al., 2018).
References
O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D.I., & Teven, J. (2018). Real communication: An introduction (4th. Ed). New York: Bedford? St. Martin’s
Shartia,
ReplyDeleteYour photo is spot on. I find it funny that no one likes to speak in public. I do agree that being comfortable is a huge part of not feeling anxiety but I still get it when I'm singing in front of my church congregation; and I know them well. In a previous post, I mentioned that I do better speaking in front of smaller bodies, little people (children) because there's a level of "no judgement" and that they are more understanding and forgiving if you "mess up." Adults can be cruel without saying a word and I think that's what scares me the most. So many people say that they don't care, but they do to a degree.
"Before you can conquer your nerviousness, you need to identify it" (O'Hair et al., 2018, p. 404).
Reference
O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D.I., & Teven, J. (2018). Real communication: An introduction (4th. Ed). New York: Bedford? St. Martin’s. p. 404